Business Mentoring Insights

  • Making Mentoring Work!

    "There's a difference between interest and commitment. When you're interested in doing something, you do it only when it's convenient. When you're committed to something, you accept no excuses; only results." - Kenneth Blanchard Read more

    Wed, Nov, 23, 2011

  • MM Podcast #5 - Matches Made in Heaven

    Do you know what goes into matching potential mentors with mentorees? Read more

    Mon, Nov, 14, 2011

  • Exploring a Mentoree's Strategic Relationships Within the Company

    Sometimes when pairs have been together for a while, they may feel like they have run out of topics to discuss.  In our workbook Executive Mentoring*, we have a Topical Resources Guide that can assist in stimulating conversation.  What follows is a sample of questions that help explore your mentoree's relationships within the company. Read more

    Wed, Nov, 09, 2011

  • Group Mentoring Ground Rules

    A number of organizations use group mentoring as a model to share information and foster professional development.  The structure of this model can vary widely... from meeting once a quarter to meeting once a month.  What is often forgotten in setting up group mentoring is the need to establish group norms at the first meeting so that participants will  understand how to engage. In our workbook: Group Mentoring: Manual for Mentors*, we have a list of group norms that are suggested.  Below are some of those norms you may want to use if managing a group: Read more

    Fri, Nov, 04, 2011

  • 10 tips to help you be the best mentee you can be!

    Be the driver in the relationship. Your mentor is there to assist you, not do it for you. Be prepared for each session. Use an agenda if it's helpful.  Always have a topic for discussion or a question ready that will stimulate a conversation. Know the boundaries around contact: how often you can meet, what phone calls you can make beyond your regular meetings, emails, etc.  If you don't do this at the beginning, you may end up underutilizing or overutilizing your mentor. Be honest with your mentor and with yourself. Mentoring is the perfect relationship in which to share your shortcomings and concerns in a supportive environment so take advantage of it. Be open to your mentor's perceptions, opinions and feedback.  You need not accept everything that is shared, but at least be willing to listen to it. Share with your mentor how s/he is helpful. This will give the mentor a sense of what they can do for you and they will be encouraged to do more. Say thank you. It doesn't get said enough. Don't be afraid to say "goodbye" when the time comes. Some relationships last a long time while others do not.  If you feel it's time to move on, let your mentor know. Tell them that what they've given you is allowing you to move on at this point. Have fun! Not everyone is lucky enough to take part in a mentoring program. Remember to relish in what may be the opportunity of a lifetime! Read more

    Mon, Oct, 24, 2011

  • 10 tips to help you be the best mentor!

    Listen more often than you speak. Approach challenges with a positive attitude when strategizing with your mentoree in finding solutions. Be consistent in terms of having contact with your mentoree Tell the truth. Having an honest exchange about an issue will help build trust in the relationship. Be objective as much as possible. Your mentoree's perspective in only one viewpoint; so present other views when possible. Affirm your mentoree when they accomplish something or arrive at a new perspective.   Ask permission when needing to share feedback that may be difficult for the mentoree to hear. This is a gentle way of preparing the mentoree.  If the mentoree opts not to have you share the feedback, that is their choice. Engage the whole person. It's not just about how a mentoree thinks, but also how they feel. Let them grow and let them go. Be ready to let the person move away from you when the time comes. It's a sign of independence as a result of the work you've done with them. Enjoy the relationship and you will gain as much as you give. Read more

    Fri, Oct, 21, 2011

  • Millenials & Mentoring: Communicating or Relating?

    Millenials are defined as those born between 1980 and 2000 who are coming of age in the new century. Pew Research says they are the most racially and ethnically diverse as well as the most progressively political in our nation's history. However, it's the fact that Millenials view texting, tweeting, and facebooking not as innovations, but as part of everyday life, that has the most impact for mentoring. At Mentoring Complete, we have always maintained that mentoring is about having a quality relationship with a more experienced person who facilitates the development of the mentee. It is this component that is being challenged the most by advanced technology.  Here, it is probably important to make a distinction between communicating and relating.  Clearly, Facebook, Twitter and other technologies and social networking sites allow people to communicate more quickly and more often. The danger is that we mistake communication for the relating that takes place in a mentoring relationship.   For mentoring to succeed, there must be time spent in building trust--getting to know the other person both personally and professionally--in order to establish the goals of the relationship and create an effective and meaningful mentoring experience. The challenge for Millenials is to focus so much on communicating through technology and mistaking this for mentoring.  The challenge for non-Millenial mentors is to make the case to the mentee that quality of time spent face-to-face or via phone is far superior to the other technologies. This is not to say that these other technologies don't have value for mentoring-they do! But they should be used as secondary tools to share knowledge in preparation for a mentoring session or as follow-up after such sessions.   So enjoy texting, tweeting and all those others methods of communicating. But when it comes to mentoring, it's best done the old fashioned way--meeting face to face and spending quality time together.   Have you been struggling with a mentoring relationship between a Millenial and a non-Millenial? As always, We would love to hear your questions and comments.   Read more

    Wed, Oct, 12, 2011

  • Not Assuming In Mentoring

    Because the word "mentoring" has been around for some time, most people feel they understand what's involved when engaging in this kind of relationship.  That's the first assumption that is incorrect and if we continue to assume, the relationship is off to a rocky start.  So here are a few basic things to negotiate when you first meet as a pair: Read more

    Mon, Oct, 10, 2011

  • Keeping Your Mentoring Relationship Interesting

      Like any relationship, mentoring can fall into a routine that can impact the quality of your time together.  Here are some tips on how to enliven or refresh your relationship. Read more

    Fri, Oct, 07, 2011